Embrace Sanity

Ethical and joyful living after Religion

  • How Sexual Repression Became a Part of Christianity

    How did today’s church become sexually repressive? The roots of this go back to the Babylonian Captivity

  • The Bible and Non-Marital Sex

    Recently, a close friend and fellow writer asked about my latest writing projects. This person knew I had been writing an article on what the Bible has to say about unmarried people having sex. They also knew it was taking a long time. I started to tell them it was almost done, but I stopped….

  • Understanding Internal Family Systems – Part 1

    My granddaughter looked thoughtful. She took more time than I thought a 5-year-old would take to answer the question “What’s your favorite movie?” I shouldn’t have been surprised. This girl thinks things through. “I’m ready Papa. I know my favorite.” I waited. “So, which one is it?” “I just love “Inside Out”. Don’t you? It…

  • A Century of Trauma, Part 2: How Each War Affected America’s Trauma

    Henry Lang came to Downton Abbey to take over as the Valet to the Lord Grantham when the Lord’s previous valet had to leave suddenly. This fictional account of a household of the English aristocracy is originally set during the early days of World War 1. The writers of Downton Abbey researched how the war…

  • Move Past the 5 Love Languages

    Move Past the 5 Love Languages

    Is Gary Chapman’s book “The Five Languages” something that will help your marriage? In this article we show its dangers and inaccuracies.

  • “No One Will Play”

    He lowered his eyes. This boy had endured a vicious spanking and was at a loss for any words to say to me. I kept asking him what he wanted me to know and see. “No one will play” he said. “My brother will play, but he is so small. I have to do all…

  • Building a New Christian Sexual Ethic

    [Update: So many people read the first few paragraphs and assume I am building a case for polyamory. I am not. This is because people aren’t reading to see my key point which is further on. If you’re going to read this article to discover my proposal for a new sexual ethical system for Christians,…

  • Deconstruction and Our New Core Self

    I taught a course to teens on how to write Adventure Novels. In that style, there are several foundational rules. One of these is the concept that the adventure itself must alter the nature and focus of the main character. As an example, let’s look at the story “The Lord of the Rings” and the…

  • Why I Will Never Be an Evangelical or Charismatic Again.

    I had been pastor of this church in Northwest Montana for only six months. I took one Sunday off to go back to British Columbia for the weekend to pack up my house we owned there to prepare for moving. Through a friend, I had arranged for a professional singer/preacher to do his thing at…

  • Blending and Unblending our Inner Parts

    Janine’s ex-boyfriend called the HR department of the marketing company she worked for. He believed that her co-workers were lying about him, and this is why she broke up with him. In his call, he threatened to initiate a lawsuit against the company. Her friend in HR told her about all his nonsense and laughed…

Purpose of this Website

In this blog, we investigate the harmful effects of religion on the mind. Also, the current trends in trauma therapy will be explored.